Delay is preferable to error.
Ian says it’s like being able to “press the ‘pause button.'” And that makes for a much “different life.”
His friend, Nancy Robinson, worried, in her comment to Ian, that delay might let her forget entirely.
But see, I read the quote differently. I thought it said “Delay is preferable to terror.”
That’s a whole different kettle of fish! Seemed a bit out of character for ole TJ. But hey, he lived in harrowing times.
So when I put these thoughts together, well, my mind goes a couple of ways.
If it’s terror
Sometimes the decisions I think I must make immediately really only seem that way because of some worry or anxiety I’ve got over the outcome.
A choice to delay an action removes, for me, a measure of anxiety and gives me space to consider options and possible out comes.
If it’s error
A choice to delay allows a situation to unfold a bit more and that may present different opportunities.
Now, sometimes, that delay could eliminate certain choices. But sometimes, too, fewer choices makes the decision easier.
How do I make the choice to delay?
I like to pay attention, as best I can, to the Morita notion “to do what must be done now.”
I can handle now.
- Is the error inevitable?
- Is it necessary to make the terrible decision now?
- Will babies die if I do or don’t do this thing? (That would sure put a different kind of pressure on the terror.)
Must the decision be made NOW?
If not now, then the decision to delay is exactly the right one to make.
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